Late term abortions are often-misunderstood. A pregnancy that is potentially life-threatening or poses serious health risks for the mother/fetus may necessitate this surgical procedure (among other reasons). When a wanted pregnancy ends in a surgical abortion, friends and family may have questions. Take a look at how to handle some of these not easy to answer inquiries.
Ask for Space
While talking to your spouse, partner, close confidant, or a mental health provider can ease this emotional time, talking to absolutely everyone isn't necessary. If you don't feel comfortable answering questions from co-workers, neighbors, or well-meaning friends/family members, then don't.
There's no etiquette-related rule requiring you to confide in anyone. Instead of feeling pressured into answering questions simply tell the person who is doing the asking that you need space.
When asking for space doesn't work, you need to shut down the conversation. Even though it's tempting to yell and scream right now (it's likely that your emotions are high), take a breath and play the no comment card.
Refusing to answer is your right. If you don't want to answer questions about the pregnancy or the abortion, get to the point and say so.
Give the Facts
Again, surgical abortions that are done later in pregnancy are often misunderstood. If you or the fetus had a serious medical complication, it's perfectly acceptable to just provide the facts — especially when you aren't ready to talk about the psychological or emotional aspects of the abortion.
You don't have to provide the person who is doing the asking with every little detail. Offer the basics, sharing what you feel comfortable with.
Talk About Emotions
An abortion is more than just a surgical procedure. It comes with a powerful set of emotions that can seriously impact any woman. If you're close with the person who is asking questions, let them know what you need — emotionally.
You don't have to go through this time alone. Opening up to a trusted family member or close friend can help you to start the healing process.
Even a well-meaning friend or family member may seem ill-informed about later term abortions. Whether the questions come from a place of caring or not, anything that makes you feel worse about the situation is unacceptable. If none of the above tactics work, simply walk away. While this may seem harsh or impolite, it isn't. Right now you need to take care of yourself.